Real answers to your most frequently asked questions on C+M

Real answers to your most frequently asked questions on C+M

I love blogging. When I first launched the blog, I was beyond shy about it. I didn’t have a clue what I was doing. Not to mention I had no idea where I stood regarding social media. What was I doing? Two years later, and I still scratch my head some days.  But I love it, and I’m here to stay. Today, I’m answering a few of the most asked questions on C+M. So here goes nothing.


How do I start a blog of my own? I want it to be a success! Girl, I get it. I have made so many mistakes when it comes to blogging. I still do. But that is what makes it all fun and games. There aren’t any rules with this whole new world. Find a name, buy the domain, and get moving. Go for it.

Start with publishing a post. Get comfortable because that takes time. Be passionate about what you are doing and be REAL! If one person loves what you are doing, then it’s a win. And remember Instagram is an app your blog is yours. (I have a feeling this will be more important in years to come).

Finding your voice and your people will be a natural flow. A flow that takes time, you have to give it time. Time, time, time! Short of paying for followers and likes (which I am totally against, and it is happening way more than you know), give it time.  I am guilty of losing my patience feeling the struggle of everyone else moving ahead. Don’t forget that the tortoise won in the end.

When you receive weird messages or comments, drown out the bad and focus on the positive. And remember to be gentle with yourself. Good things take time. Do it the right way and don’t cheat the system. I still don’t have all the answers, but what you see is what you get with this girl. I love dresses, flowers, my husband, being outside, poodles and a great pair of heels. I am who I am. Be who you are.


Where can I find your morning devotionals? This past year I have slowly started sharing screenshots of my morning readings. Mainly sharing passages that speak to me.  I hope it helps brighten someone else’s day the way it does mine. Spirituality is a huge part of my life, and I never want to make anyone feel uncomfortable, but it is something that I love. So sharing it only feels natural.

My daily devotional is Jesus Calling, and one of my best friends sent it to me. I still owe Lauren for introducing it. That little book saved me when I needed it most. Through heartache and loss, and everyday living. I love it, and I need it. I have several copies, and it has been one of the best gifts I have ever received. It is short and to the point and always a great to start the day. There are a few versions of the book, and I just discovered an extended version for morning and night reading!


What is your diet and exercise routine?  I asked a few of you if you would like to see more posts on this topic. I had a surprising response to this, and I am currently working on a few ideas. The bare bones of it all: I drink water, coffee, champagne and wine (tequila on a blue moon). I eat a pescetarian/vegetarian diet with a lot of salads and veggies at the heart of it all. I do not limit myself but do try not over to do it. My biggest advice is finding what works for you. Listen to what your body needs.

I have cellulite, and I hate parts of my body, and I hate working out! Our lives are busy, but I try to make a plan for what works best for us. Stick to a realistic plan that fits in your daily lives. I try to walk or bike and move regularly. Days when I am tucked in my office emailing or writing I make it a point to walk around with the dogs to break from the screen. I used to call it my pretend smoke break because I needed to get out and move!

I use 10 lb weights, and I have a small circuit that I can do anywhere. If you google at home workouts, there are a ton of them. I found one that works, and I make myself do it daily. Being active is important, and I can feel my body hating me when I am not.


What camera and editing apps do you use? I love my phone camera. I am about to send you through the roof, but I use a Samsung Galaxy S6. I love it. I am dying to upgrade to the 8, heard it is amazing so stay tuned. This year my husband surprised me with a fancy little camera. The Lumix is the perfect size and weight, especially for traveling.

When it comes to editing, there isn’t one look out there for everyone, how boring would that be! Find what works for your style. Play around with a few options to see what feels right. I changed mine from a cooler tone to a warmer one last year because that tone fit my lifestyle better. Not sure anyone even noticed!

My go to app is VSCO. Their tools are excellent, and they offer a broad range of filtering options. To be honest, I even love a few of the tools in the Instagram app. The key is consistency. My go to filter might not work for every photo either. I take a lot of time with this part of the blog whenever posting on any of my social networks. A good camera phone and a few editing tools can make a huge difference!


What type of dogs do you have? I want one! This question is always my favorite because my little animals are my life. Trixie and Babs are both poodles. They are half sisters and came from a breeder in Tennessee. If you haven’t had a small dog before I highly suggest taking the time to study up on the commitment. They are like babies and need a lot of time and attention. I grew up watching my mom take care of our little poodles, so I was well aware of what I was getting into with two. They are the sweetest, and I can’t imagine life without them in it! It is a lot of work but worth it.


By | 2017-07-25T12:39:59+00:00 July 25th, 2017|Lifestyle|14 Comments


  1. Alyssa LeSavags July 25, 2017 at 9:52 pm - Reply

    Love this post Tamara! 💕💕 Love how honest you are in answering all these questions!

    • Tamara August 1, 2017 at 3:17 pm - Reply

      Alyssa – thank you so much! I was hesitant to write it but I truly hope it helps at least one person! We all have to lift each other up. This world is such a crazy place. Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to write a little note! I really appreciate it so much! XX

  2. Tracey Shull July 26, 2017 at 12:28 am - Reply

    Hi, Tamara. I love that you are true to yourself—in fashion, lifestyle, spirituality. So often we feel pressure to be what is popular or trendy, but the only route to happiness is to be genuine, no matter what others think. Thank you for being you and for sharing it with us! I am always uplifted and inspired!

    • Tamara August 1, 2017 at 3:16 pm - Reply

      Tracey – it is not always easy to stay true to it all. I often find myself comparing everything and that is when I seem to get down on myself the most. It is hard to stay positive all the time, but there is so much to be grateful for and celebrate. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your stopping by to leave a kind word of inspiration. Means the world to me! XX Tamara

  3. Alanna July 26, 2017 at 5:00 am - Reply

    I love my samsung galaxy s7 too! Thank you for being so real and honest Tam. 💖So glad to really know you and I hope our paths cross again soon. You are truly inspiring and I love your style and watching you grow. Gimme all your outfits! Oh wait, nevermind, I still owe you a bridesmaid gown! 😘

    • Tamara August 1, 2017 at 3:14 pm - Reply

      Keep it forever! I love you and appreciate you coming here to read this post. Can’t wait to see you again! XX

  4. Bri July 30, 2017 at 8:10 pm - Reply

    I love Jesus calling!! I’d love to have the extended version! Do you have a link to that? Thanks for sharing girl!💖

    • Tamara August 1, 2017 at 3:13 pm - Reply

      Hi, Bri! Yes, I will email you a link to it! Thank you for stopping by and for leaving a kind comment! XX Tamara

  5. Alli Neuhaus July 31, 2017 at 8:55 am - Reply

    Loved hearing this! Especially the blog question as I just recently started to write a blog as well, and I love it! Although it can be frustrating at times(attracting readers, followers) I find it so enjoyable so I just want to stay true to myself and keep pushing to do what I love and rest will come with time! Thanks for the advice 💕

    • Tamara August 1, 2017 at 3:13 pm - Reply

      Thank you for stopping by and for leaving such a sweet comment. Means a lot! Trust yourself with the process! Everyone makes it look easy but it is a lot of work and takes time! You will do wonderfully!

  6. Melissa July 31, 2017 at 11:23 pm - Reply

    Thank you sharing!

    • Tamara August 1, 2017 at 3:18 pm - Reply

      Thank you for reading Melissa! XX Tam

  7. Libby Romano August 4, 2017 at 6:26 am - Reply

    Tamara, I just LOVE reading your articles. Your site was one of the first I started following as I began my own blogging journey, purely because I loved your photos and your voice – very authentic and refreshing in a crowded space. And I still check in regularly because I love being inspired by other women.

    Your advice is spot on, and a great reminder not to rush in building a brand; to be true to yourself; and that it’s okay to make changes along the way… I’ve continually refined my site over the last few months, and am sure I will continue. It’s a journey and a marathon!

    Best wishes, and keep creating!


    Libby Romano

    • Tamara August 5, 2017 at 9:27 pm - Reply

      Libby – thank you so very much. This means so much to me. Thank you for taking the time to stop by and comment and say such kind words. XX Tamara

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